Don't go breakin' ma heart.......I

Using kind words sometimes requires teaching children how to be kind and respectful, tolerating and accepting others differences.  Sometimes this even means giving them the words but a lot of the time it is about emotional regulation.  Naming emotions, sitting with them or asking for time and space is all part of this learning.  We all know that it is easier said than done in the heat of the moment.  

We have done 2 tasks this week that have been fabulous illustrations of this concept.  The first one was using a tube of toothpaste and getting kids to squeeze a bit out while using a mean comment.  The purpose of this activity was to show kids that once something leaves your mouth and makes its way into someones ears it has a lasting impact on how someone feels.   We could not get all of the toothpaste back into the tube.   This was a strong visual message for our kids.  

Basically in a nutshell, you can't ever take words back. The kids had some really interesting perpsectives on forgiveness and apologies.  These are all good after the fact but the 'even better if' is thinking before we speak.  This is also the hardest thing to master.  

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No matter what strategy we used we could not get that toothpaste back in.

The second task we did was the heart activity.  We poured all of our time and energy into creating a heart  with all the things that made us special, that made us feel good about our selves.  This was to demonstrate how much time it takes to build confidence and self esteem.  

                     

Part 2 of this little experiment was scruching our heart up into the tiniest smallest ball.  This is what happens to someones heart when we choose not to encourage and support each other.  These are mean words on statements that others feel 'small'.  These are not always intentionlly mean comments but they still have an effect on how someone feels.  

When we unscrunched our hearts we noticed that we could not get rid of the wrinkles.  This is a little bit like remembering a negative comment.  

The wrinkles are visible !  At Worser Bay School we believe in building each others mana by focusing on the 'we' rather than the 'I'.  Our Flourish Model focuses on all the aspects to be our best selves.